Lately I’m so busy with my career as a Mother and with my students to whom I’m teaching arts that I completely forgot to share with you some nice moments from our last travel to Vilnius.
Yes, it was super short but still it was opportunity to see my parents and my siblings.
Also Rodrigo had two concerts at Karalienės Mortos mokykla, a school that has been innovating a lot in terms of education and how they work with their kids. Both concerts were full of engaged students quite curious to learn more about the didgeridoo.
He also met Ūdros Vaikai, a duo that uses the mouth harp as their main instrument, blending it with poetry and other instruments. They devised some music together to present it in a unique concert and we do hope to collaborate more in the future.
Some new things that I learnt from last journey to Vilnius:
1. In the plane, as a 2 year old, Markus doesn’t receive life jacket but also being such a small kid he still can’t fit in an adult jacket. The same with the belts… is it only me who thinks about having a “medium size” or something like that ;-)? It would be suitable for older than 2 years old kids but younger than 10 years. Or maybe it could be regulated by kilos and high of kid… lets say if you are bigger then 1.5m then you get adult size, if smaller you would use “medium size” …..
2. I can’t make happy all my family and friends… It’s just impossible!! So I learnt that best way to see all or at lease those who are available it s my husband’s concerts! !!
3. It s super nice to see how my kid is adapting to new places and people! Let’s do it again!!!
Check the pictures from our travel on the gallery above the text!
We started the week with a project “colorful clouds” that I found in one little project. It contains only stuff that you normally have at home (unless your dad has a stylish beard as ours and doesn’t use shaving foam). Results are unexpected and beautiful!!!
We tried “Penny Spinners”. It s super fast and fun small project and you can learn how to make it here.
Lately Markus is insisting to have my glasses so I thought to make ones for him from a eggs box???. And even though he enjoyed the process of making them ,,,but not to wear….
The project of the week was a garage for small cars! It super simple: Collect and glue toilet paper rolls! As much you need or as much you do have cars 😉 and create your own garage shape and form! Markus spend at least 25min in silence playing with it: taking out and putting back in his cars.
One day I will find the place where I will want to have my own home (including R+M) and I will have garden full of vegetables and herbs.
So I need to practice for that ;)…
I learned some tricks from my father because he loves flowers and everything else that has leaves. But my skills in gardening are totally low!
Last summer I tried to grow some strawberries… you know those pots “easy to plant” and etc. That you just need to add water and wait because rest it s already done…but not for me. I was waiting and waiting… calling to my father for consultation but no success!
Ok. After some months I got one or two poor blossoms… but no strawberries. Maybe they was missing bees to pollinate and fertilize them?? 😉
But this year I was ready to try again! Specially because I wanted Markus to learn how to behave in front of a fragile plant (on those days he basically was just stepping all blossoms that he could find and I wanted to show him that he needs to take care of smaller beings than him and not hurt them).
I hope everyone started the new year with new challenges as we did 😉
First. Rodrigo started his second term at Guildhall had super duper busy week: two days working with one of his tutors and with the electronic music and jazz departments, and the rest of days working intensively with Sam Mumford on the reflection around the Artistic Practice.
Second. We had a super nice visit from Vilnius. My sister and brother came to visit us in London and spend londonish weekend with us.
Third. Markus is now 2 years old 😉 and basically this post should be about it because he is growing and we have new challenges to deal with. And lately he is challenging us and testing our patience ;). So I would like to share some things that help me when I have hard moments with him:
1. Screaming doesn’t helps – if I will scream, the kid will scream also. He will imitate you because he learns from you.
2. Speak clearly and try to explain the situation by playing – for example Markus doesn’t want to stay with his childminder. Before we go I play with him this game with his animals: the giraffe is childminder, the horse is Markus, the rooster is me. We play with those animals how horse comes with rooster to the giraffe’s house. Rooster goes to work and horse stays with giraffe. And it works!!! After 30 min of playing, Markus packs his things to go to childminder.
3. Give time for your kid to understand the situation. I prefer to explain 10000 times the same sentence then scream on him once. Also I learnt to go out earlier from house so I will get on time in case something interesting appears on the road 😉
4. Use “no” as little as possible and if it’s impossible to avoid it then explain why, again as many times as needed.
I think it’s enough topics. .. it s only 4 but sometimes it can be really hard to use them during the day… at least for me 😉
And my new challenge is coming….
HOW TO HELP YOUR KID TO WORK OUT WITH HIS OWN FEELINGS (bad and good ones) ??
Yes, we are. Each year appears something super big in our life like in 2013 our big project “to live together”, in 2014 project “baby”. On 2015 we moved to London and of course it is not such a big project as last two but also requires a lot of effort and energy. And we are really proud of ourselves that we are carrying London’s project quite well.
What do we want from 2016?
We want to find out a project that has been growing in our heads from some time but it is still the size of a seed so we don´t speak about it loud!
So I went to Argentina! The Leadership course organizes some international placements for their students and this year both year 1, year 2 and some other Guildhall students had the opportunity to go to La Plata for two weeks. The activity was hosted by Colectivo La Sonora and had four main aspects: Candombe Percussion, Tango, community work and folkore music and dance.
Together with other 7 students we spent an amazing fortnight with two weeks full of music, strong emotions, intensive experiences, “multi-culti” moments, shared learning, and loads of music making that culminated in a concert in La Plata in the last night.
Buenos Aires from the air
Candombe drums ready for the lessons
Sun, food and so much sharing
Preparing the session for the kids
Back to London..
A word of thank you to everyone who made this experience possible:
In the last days the weather has been very nice and warm. When Markus and I have “Father’s out” days we try to be more occupied so time passes faster and father comes faster home
In the beginning of the week Markus had his experience with his new childminder. It was the second time that he stayed without me or Rodrigo. The first time Markus was without the parents when my friend Gabija stayed with him for 3 hours some weeks ago… and, for our big surprise, he was more than perfect! We went out saying that we were going to work (we just don’t agree with hiding or disappearing from the place without explaining to him what is happening but also we do not need to make long good byes) and went to dress to get out, Markus even came to the corridor to say good-bye and kiss us.
But with childminder it was different… maybe because there were more kids around or because it was a new place. In the beginning everything looked quite not bad and I went out but when I came back to take him, the childminder told me that each time some parents would come to pick other kids Markus was crying and he also cried when I came :), of course I know he needs time to adapt, but some thing tells me that maybe I can find better place for him, not exactly better but more fitting his personality and our family’s view of education.
But still that “working mom” experience was perfect!!! Now I know how hard it is or maybe I’m so used to my own mom’s position that I forgot how I can improve my “momish” skills :), and on that day I did!!! I woke up at 7am, Markus and I did all normal morning duties as shopping, cleaning, breakfast, morning walk and nappies washing. Markus had his lunch sleep, or as I call it his “beauty sleep”, while I was working on computer and then after lunch I brought him to childminder, left him, caught the bus and went to my student’s house, gave the lesson, came back and had rest of afternoon duties that normally takes 5 hours of afternoon but I did in 1.30hour!!!! And I felt great! No stress at all, just tired but I can get used to it!
So, after that childminder experience I thought to give something nice to my son and go for museum, Childhood or Natural History, I couldn´t decide. And I didn´t have to because on FridayMarkus got a cold and after it was me :)…
Museum Vs Bed… BED!!! With blankets, warm cup of tea and best family in the world THE WALKABOUT FAMILY!!!
Last week started with some good news: I now have some students to work with! I’m very excited to start my career as an art tutor in London. And please wish me luck because it has already been some time that I wasn´t working, so I do need support to feel self-confidence!
During the week Markus had the experience of trying chalk eggs and make some drawing in the bathroom and outside! I was in love with those eggs!! They are comfortable to grab and to use for toddlers, also the funny shape makes all the process more entertaining.
We had lovely visit from Portugal! and Markus had opportunity to see his grandfather from Porto.
In the end Rodrigo had a didgeridoo moment in Musical Beacons by Sound Castle. He was invited to share some secrets of the didgeridoo with some nice families in the center. For Rodrigo it was an opportunity to get back to what he loves to do with the didgeridoo and families and also to get to meet more people involved in the same kind of work.