I hope everyone started the new year with new challenges as we did 😉
First. Rodrigo started his second term at Guildhall had super duper busy week: two days working with one of his tutors and with the electronic music and jazz departments, and the rest of days working intensively with Sam Mumford on the reflection around the Artistic Practice.
Third. Markus is now 2 years old 😉 and basically this post should be about it because he is growing and we have new challenges to deal with. And lately he is challenging us and testing our patience ;). So I would like to share some things that help me when I have hard moments with him:
1. Screaming doesn’t helps – if I will scream, the kid will scream also. He will imitate you because he learns from you.
2. Speak clearly and try to explain the situation by playing – for example Markus doesn’t want to stay with his childminder. Before we go I play with him this game with his animals: the giraffe is childminder, the horse is Markus, the rooster is me. We play with those animals how horse comes with rooster to the giraffe’s house. Rooster goes to work and horse stays with giraffe. And it works!!! After 30 min of playing, Markus packs his things to go to childminder.
3. Give time for your kid to understand the situation. I prefer to explain 10000 times the same sentence then scream on him once. Also I learnt to go out earlier from house so I will get on time in case something interesting appears on the road 😉
4. Use “no” as little as possible and if it’s impossible to avoid it then explain why, again as many times as needed.
I think it’s enough topics. .. it s only 4 but sometimes it can be really hard to use them during the day… at least for me 😉
And my new challenge is coming….
HOW TO HELP YOUR KID TO WORK OUT WITH HIS OWN FEELINGS (bad and good ones) ??
Do you have advice?? I will make my research. ..
We are in London already for 2 months and 12 days… We already have a flat, a bank account, the national insurance number and the rest of small things that was in our “must have in London” list. Rodrigo started his studies and is already sweating at his tasks, he also got a job as a steward at the school so sometimes he has the opportunity to play a very important role in events!
But this post is not about that… It’s about how expensive it is to have kid in London and HOW TO FIND CHILDCARE FOR HIM….
So, there are mainly two ways. One is hard and takes time, the other is easier but also takes time 😉 because I am sure you want to choose best place that fits all yours and your kid’s needs.
Speak with your friends, neighbours, all the people who have or had kids, look in newspapers and job’s advertisements, etc… Maybe one day you will find someone…
Or use second way:
Got to childcare.uk.com and just sign in… here you can find nannies, childminders, babysitters, family support and etc… in shortly, everything you need!!! Using this platform I understood what are the differences between nannies, nurseries and childminders… and I choose the latter.
Childminders vs Nurseries. Childminders can have only 6 kids at once, it’s a smaller group of kids and much closer to the concept “home to home” and easy to adapt for kids that spend all their time with moms (Markus case). Childminders are also more flexible with times… you can find a childminder that receives kids at any time even on the night and nurseries normally have strict schedule and finishing quite early in the day (one close to our house finishes at 3pm).
Childminders vs Nannies. As previously said, childminder can have 6 or less kids. Ok, maybe some childminders doesn’t have more kids at a certain moment, so your kid will be the only one but in normal conditions kids are playing in small groups and can have some fun all the time. With a nanny the kid is alone unless she goes to playing groups or playing grounds but still for me is not the same.
So, each family can find something that fulfils their needs. We choose childminder.
The second step is to visit all childminders around our house! As much as I can!! Because I want to see what are the opportunities and choose place that fits our needs best!!!
5 Markus´s challenges:
More challenges just to come!!!
The time to move to London is approaching quite fast so we have been saying our goodbyes to Portugal! Let us share with you some images of this process…
Since we came from Cabo Verde, we’ve been closing chapters and preparing the new one. We moved to a house in a great place called Vilar de Mouros. It’s a small village in the north of Portugal that became famous because of the oldest portuguese music summer festival. My uncle allowed us to stay at his house for some time to save some money on rent and this has been our base for these times.
The place where we was keeping our things to sell was robbed a second time and now we left a sign on the door asking our friends not to break nothing more as there was nothing important left inside. We found ouselves throwing away a lot of things and always thinking about the amount of stuff we keep for “one day to be used in something nice”.
The days in Vilar have been spent between enjoying the portuguese sun before moving to London, visiting around showing the surroundings to Markus and Terese, working on the papers for the school, looking for ways to fund our stay in London and even though I almost don’t have any more tools and resources for working in the didgeridoos I couldn’t resist to work on a project I had unfinished.
There is still a lot to happen to us in the next weeks and those times are a delicious challenge to us as a family. We are grateful to be living this oportunity to follow our dreams.
The Walkabout Family is moving to London. Because this is a very big event for us we are selling almost everything we have. But we were stolen. Here we share what we learnt from that experience.
When we understood that this would be a new chapter for us we started looking for what we had that we wouldn’t need. All the clothes and things from Markus was given to other parents or institutions. Then came some house things like furniture and kitchen utilities. Then the musical instruments, books, CDs and other things or memories from our lives. Then the tools. Because we had to move out of the house we was living in we stored everything in Rodrigo’s workshop while we was posting it in our Leaving Stuff Behind blog.
Two days before going to Cabo Verde we received a phone call: “place was stolen, come as fast as you can to see what’s missing”. This is a glimpse of what we found…
At first it’s sad to see your things like this. Not because of their value but because some of these things was collected when we were kids, me or Terese, and some happen to be special for us in their way.
I just had one hour to understand what was missing and immediatly I noticed a four wheeled scooter that was already promised to someone, an old computer that I was going to offer to an institution, my angle grinder that was mounted with my didgeridoo making tool the Arbortech, some power tools for didgeridoo making, among other things. In total about 600 euros worth in material was gone.
After sadness comes anger. I started feeling really bad about this and the people who had done it. Bad thoughts filled my mind..
Nothing to be done at the moment, I tried to rescue the last didgeridoo making tools, took these pictures, a last look and I had to leave to work in Cabo Verde trying not to think too much about this and trying to send away the fear that they would come back to pick more things while I would be away.
As soon as we landed in Portugal I came back to the place. I needed to face it and clean it. It was very difficult to pick up everything from the floor and collect the traces of the event.
After some minutes wanting to slap these kids faces to teach them a lesson I found myself feeling sad for them that they don’t understand the notion of respect and property. They didn’t enter the place necessarily because they are in finantial hardship but mostly to play adults and brave ones. In the end they find themselves playing with two old useless toys and the destroy some things in the way. I whish I could meet them and ask if they want more things, I have been giving a lot of our things and it’s more important that they move into new hands than to make a fortune out of these things.
Any way: they didn’t come back while we were out and no new things were stolen. Now the place is empty and it’s time to share what we learned from this experience:
- After the “attack” I contacted some people and in one day we forwarded most of the things that was still sitting in the place – I moved out more things in some hours than I had done in two weeks, apparently we needed a push!
- The first impressions from the scenario they left made us think it was a robbery, after better observation we understood that they were kids trying to prove something – how we all must be careful with first feelings!
- 600 euros worth of material and some sentimental things disappeared and we found ourselves not missing them so much after all – as a friend said: everything that can be stolen from you is replaceable.
Most of our things are sold, given and delivered. We are very excited with this detachment practice that is opening space for new learnings and experiences!
So, The Walkabout Family is about to enter a big adventure and we might become a bit out of contact!
In the next thirty days a lot will happen in our lives… Moving to London is a big challenge for us in this moment so we are focusing all our energy in that change.
But other things will happen in the meantime: we are moving out of our house to cut down some expenses, we are going to take our work to Cabo Verde for some days and besides all this Rodrigo still has some tasks for the school application at Guildhall.
We will spend the next days packing, moving, traveling, performing, teaching, experiencing Cabo Verde and the new relationships that will be created, and most of all taking care of the family.
This said, please be patient if we take some time answering some emails, publishing posts or answering our phones. We will try to come back to normal connection around May 14th.
Thank you for your comprehension!
I applied to the course and was called for an audition that consisted on sharing with the directors of the course my skills and objectives for it, a workshop led by three inspiring teachers together with other applicants for the course coming from England, South Africa and the United States and in the end an interview. I also had the opportunity to visit the Sundial Court, the students residence.
I spent three amazing days in London absorbing all the vibrant energy of that city and gathering inspiration for our work. Included in the free time was a visit to some mandatory places like St. Paul’s Cathedral, the amazing and inspiring Tate Galleries, and the Tower Bridge!