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NEXT STOP: existential issues or How you would explain to a 3 year old child about death, growth, birth, planet earth and etc?

It’s midsummer and we are checking our achievements:

Challenge London: completed with success – for all of us it was a big provocation, and each of us took great responsibility and risk to fulfil their part.
Challenge Baby Number 2: as it was with London – difficult beginning of pregnancy, second part came with much calmer moods and the big pleasure to be in the presence of new life coming to this crazy world.
Challenge 3: Toddler Upbringing: hmmm – I think we can’t call it an achievement because it is an ongoing process, a never ending story :)
HERE we stop for a minute…
We had “sleep/eat/poop” period, “I want to stand up but I can’t” period, “not eating” period, etc. And each time I was thinking “that is hardest period in my whole life!!”
No, it s not. And still ain’t now… because with each year of life with Markus we learn more and more, and things becomes more complex and more tricky and involve more conversations and more things to discuss..
It’s much easier to sleep only 2 hours per day or wash nappies like crazy (oh yes, at that moment it does look like I CAN NOT DO IT ANYMORE) but when it comes “Mom, when I will die? Could you show me the date on calendar?”, then all the world stops and I feel like my tears are concentrating and getting ready to run down!
YES! I can change nappies, as much as you need!!  But it’s really difficult to listen and not to cry when I listen “You are getting old, so you will die. When you will die I will lay next to you”.
So, now we do have an existential period where we discover how people are born birth, from spermatozoid to fertilised egg, from cell until the moment the baby is pushed out into the world (YOUTUBE videos are really helpful stuff :-) ). How we grow, how our body changes and get more hairy and for what is used testicles. How we die and where the body disappears to, here comes “I don’t want you to die mum!” stuff and etc.
So after the training about human body I can easily answer to “Why don’t we fall of from the earth if it s round?” :-) I can speak and speak about it and change nappies :) but please no more questions about When I will die !!

3 YEARS AND 2 MONTHS

When I was pregnant I read an article about how the child is attached to the mother, and how incredibly important she is for him. When they reach 3 years old then the mother’s significance starts reducing and the father’s increasing. At that time i didn’t care much about it, but now… some weeks ago I remembered it again.

It is true!!!
On January Markus turned 3 years old and guess what? Last weeks I noticed how he is creating a distance between me and him. It’s not bad! It feels so natural for him to go and look for other experiences instead of time with the mother. And I love to see how the father’s role is increasing and the friendships he is creating with his mates from school.
So, the mother’s monarchy is finishing and I’m so happy that I could spend time with him and respect his natural progressions like when he was ready to said no for breastfeeding, and to find a school on the right time.
And now I think its time to start to think about myself and my development as an artist or to start thinking about increasing the number of members of our family!!!
I am so exited to write this post because I know that now a new chapter is starting for me and for Markus as an individual!

2017! 2017…

It s almost 1 month now that we changed the 6 into a 7 and I am still thinking how big and powerful was the number “2016” for us.

Each time when I write about new years I go to read my posts from the previous year.
Were we challenged enough during last year? YES
Did we work it out as best as we could? YES
Would I change anything? No!
It was a hard year but I think we learned good lessons from it as couple and family. And we had beautiful moments and projects.
Now, we are facing a challenge that has been in our heads for some time. What comes next? Where are we going after the course? Do we stay in London?
So it seems that the number 7 will bring us new life, new experiences. Let’s see where we will meet number 8!
Until then we would like to share some moments from 2016!

 

Christmas!!! merry Christmas!!

It has been the longest Christmas that we ever had!… Last week we had family visits in Porto so our Christmas mood started there and all those decorations on the street, it looked like Christmas was coming, almost coming, almost, but still not here 😉

Anyway we would love to share some ginger cookies and christmas
tree lights with you all!
And also our typical Christmas postcard/video that you can see here!

Boas Festas! Gerų švenčių!

 

Autumn – best time for museums!

Children and museums! Is it a good match or just lost time and tantrums?

I think it depends on some circumstances… like age, expectations and you time management ways.
For example our family contains ages from 2 to 35 so we try to find museums in which each of us can find something interesting. And be aware that it’s very possible that we will need an extra trip to see all the museum or even to make more 3 visits until all of us are happy that we have seen everything we wanted :)
Managing when is the right time to go to the museum – when there is less people, between naps, etc. Managing when is the right time to go out! You must count that some energy must be left for the travel because you won”t want to stay overnight in the museum! So it is important to leave the space when the youngest family member still has energy to reach home without being on the limit of a “meltdown”.
First thing what we do when we enter the space it s to find a map (sometimes we check it on internet before leaving home) and decide what exactly we want to see, what are our priorities and what can be left “to see later”. Then we try to stick to that and that makes our visit much more smooth and relax.
In this way even a 2 years old toddler can enjoy Tate Moden, Narional History Museum, V&A Museum, British Library, British Museum and much more.

Let us sneak into Markus cloakroom or a GIANT POST

Today I was looking for a hat… a summer hat for Markus. And since my research takes time I thought to write a post about some of our discoveries, without which we couldn’t survive!!

First. Our Markus is good in “sweaty feet”, “wet sweaty head” and more “desirable” skills :)…

Here in London the weather is not as hot as it was in Portugal, I still remember his wet car seat and how I had to learn some tricks to keep my son fresh and comfortable. One of most important strategies to keep him fresh is to choose the right footwear and clothing.  Normally this means as natural as possible: wool, cotton, silk or bamboo fabrics, but not always and it’s proven by ergo baby! We had a carrier made from 100% polyester and we were super happy with it (the father adds: that was very much due to the 3D mesh they use)!

Other things we can’t survive without:

HATS.

Sterntaler or Pickapooh: both are super cool producers of hats and allrounders. First I found Pickapooh and bought a sun hat that protects from UV and has an excellent sun protection for eyes, face, ears and neck. And it was super duper hat that we used all 6 months in Portugal. After it I got one Sterntaler hat from a friend and I fell in love with it! It also had UV protection and it was from Pure Colour collection so it had a strong basic colour that can save your kid when he gets is lost in shopping – yes, it happened to me, I lost Markus during my shopping and the colour helped my to spot him much faster. And in the winter time I came back to Pickapooh and bought helmet. And even if Portuguese winters are not so cold, still this helmet saved our lives because of the rain. It was made from natural wool so it kept balanced temperature next to Markus head and he was protected from the wind as well.

In terms of quality and design there is no big difference between Sterntaler and Pickapooh products so it depends on what you are looking for, budget and probably which one of them you have closer to your living place.

Ahh.. I almost forgot that we had one of Engel hat too. It was when we moved to London and I found out that is super warm and comfortable hat! So I recommend it also!

OUTFITS

While we were living in Portugal we were dealing with Markus and his super powers to be sweating and wet all the time. For this there was only one solution – MERINO WOOL. It was the times when we used only two colours because of Green-Rose, it’s a small company in Lithuania and they have weird way of visual communication (colours and even fabrics are different on their page then in reality and they also have different assortment in the shop and online) and I never understood the way how they take pictures of their products in a way that you just can´t see (black skirt in a black background). But still, each time when I go to Lithuania I go straight to the Green-Rose shop to buy wool trousers for Markus (all the time the same colours :) because they are light and regulates his body temperature and price is affordable! Even now when we live in London and Markus is sweating less he is using trousers at home and pyjama at night that are made from bamboo and cotton. The quality of pyjama is not the best because it ages very fast but it keeps my son warm when he kicks his blanket away and cools him down when he is covering himself too much.

Ruskovilla – is other brand that I’m happy to share. My english is just to poor to express how we were lucky to try bodysuit of this brand. I just cannot dream about anything better. Must have!!!

SOCKS

I found super comfortable socks that Markus is using all the time since we are in London. Again is a German company named Hirsch Natur. We have 3 pairs of thin knit socks and 1 pair of medium knit that we use as home shoes. It s completely enough because I don´t need to wash them each day. It s natural wool so during the night socks are resting and next morning they are ready for long walks with Markus! Best thing for sweaty feet and for London weather as well.

SHOES

When Markus started to walk we needed more then socks but still not a heavy shoes and definitely something fresh because of the Portuguese weather… It took time to find something that made me happy. But I found it :) Pediped Original… They are super flexible and protecting the feet but are not to heavy! They have super cool sales all over the year and no worries that is USA, they are sending from nearest shop so it’s no extra costs for European customers. Of course later we needed more than one pair especially that our Markus is walking a lot and destroying shoes as his mother, so we are alternating with Clarks shoes and with sandals with wool socks, he loves it. Next thing we will try will be Pediped’s Flex Adventure sandals!

RAIN CLOTHES

We like to go outside and be not affected by weather, so we bought rain clothes for Markus, but hmmm… It was the last time I saved on Markus outfit :) because I chose less expensive and I’m a bit disappointed with our Regatta rain suit, because after 1 hour of walk in the rain Markus was wet. My friend said to try Reima products because all her 4 children are growing with them!

I think for know it s all..if one day I will remember something I will add 😉

 

CLOSING THE SPRING TERM

The spring is coming to an end and we are making our reflection for this period of the year.

finishing his year at the school: starting to have new look of his place and role at the course.

becoming stronger as a father and a husband and being a good inspiration for his wife.

in general, you should see Rodrigo!! you wouldn´t recognise him! he become much more responsible, reliable and attentive person.

learnt that to be mother is a job and hard one. She was studying how to draw more than 6 years, but unfortunately she received no manual on how to be responsible for other person

understood that, if she wants to be good mother and inspire her husband, she needs to express herself as person.

has been a source of energy and strength for Rodrigo.
is super multi tasking, learning everything at any time!

So, lets reflect about our life more than once (not only in New Year´s Eve) to grow our relationships with ourselves and as family.

EASTER AND EGGS!

Recipe for a romantic family Easter.

You will need:

  • 1 Husband or something similar,
  • Kid or kids (depends if you like more bitter or more acid taste),
  • Place to stay.

For decoration:
Food, drinks, light, time… basically things that you have around you.

Process:
Wake up and enjoy your romantic family easter.

Some things I didn’t tell you…

Lately I’m so busy with my career as a Mother and with my students to whom I’m teaching arts that I completely forgot to share with you some nice moments from our last travel to Vilnius.

Yes, it was super short but still it was opportunity to see my parents and my siblings.

Also Rodrigo had two concerts at Karalienės Mortos mokykla, a school that has been innovating a lot in terms of education and how they work with their kids. Both concerts were full of engaged students quite curious to learn more about the didgeridoo.

He also met Ūdros Vaikai, a duo that uses the mouth harp as their main instrument, blending it with poetry and other instruments. They devised some music together to present it in a unique concert and we do hope to collaborate more in the future.

Some new things that I learnt from last journey to Vilnius:

1. In the plane, as a 2 year old, Markus doesn’t receive life jacket but also being such a small kid he still can’t fit in an adult jacket.  The same with the belts… is it only me who thinks about having a “medium size” or something like that ;-)? It would be suitable for older than 2 years old kids but younger than 10 years. Or maybe it could be regulated by kilos and high of kid… lets say if you are bigger then 1.5m then you get adult size, if smaller you would use “medium size” …..

2. I can’t make happy all my family and friends… It’s just impossible!! So I learnt that best way to see all or at lease those who are available it s my husband’s concerts! !!

3. It s super nice to see how my kid is adapting to new places and people! Let’s do it again!!!

Check the pictures from our travel on the gallery above the text!

Pictures by Tomas Martasi and others.

CRAFTY WEEK!!

Last week was messy and busy as we like!

We started the week with a project “colorful clouds” that I found in one little project. It contains only stuff that you normally have at home (unless your dad has a stylish beard as ours and doesn’t use shaving foam). Results are unexpected and beautiful!!!

clouds
clouds

We tried “Penny Spinners”. It s super fast and fun small project and you can learn how to make it here.

penny spinner is ready
penny spinner is ready

Lately Markus is insisting to have my glasses so I thought to make ones for him from a eggs box???. And even though he enjoyed the process of making them ,,,but not to wear….

birdman:)
birdman:)

The project of the week was a garage for small cars!  It super simple:
Collect and glue toilet paper rolls! As much you need or as much you do have cars 😉 and create your own garage shape and form! Markus spend at least 25min in silence playing with it: taking out and putting back in his cars.

cars have a place now!
cars have a place now!

And what is yours project of the week??