It’s midsummer and we are checking our achievements:
Challenge London: completed with success – for all of us it was a big provocation, and each of us took great responsibility and risk to fulfil their part.
Challenge Baby Number 2: as it was with London – difficult beginning of pregnancy, second part came with much calmer moods and the big pleasure to be in the presence of new life coming to this crazy world.
Challenge 3: Toddler Upbringing: hmmm – I think we can’t call it an achievement because it is an ongoing process, a never ending story
HERE we stop for a minute…
We had “sleep/eat/poop” period, “I want to stand up but I can’t” period, “not eating” period, etc. And each time I was thinking “that is hardest period in my whole life!!”
No, it s not. And still ain’t now… because with each year of life with Markus we learn more and more, and things becomes more complex and more tricky and involve more conversations and more things to discuss..
It’s much easier to sleep only 2 hours per day or wash nappies like crazy (oh yes, at that moment it does look like I CAN NOT DO IT ANYMORE) but when it comes “Mom, when I will die? Could you show me the date on calendar?”, then all the world stops and I feel like my tears are concentrating and getting ready to run down!
YES! I can change nappies, as much as you need!! But it’s really difficult to listen and not to cry when I listen “You are getting old, so you will die. When you will die I will lay next to you”.
So, now we do have an existential period where we discover how people are born birth, from spermatozoid to fertilised egg, from cell until the moment the baby is pushed out into the world (YOUTUBE videos are really helpful stuff ). How we grow, how our body changes and get more hairy and for what is used testicles. How we die and where the body disappears to, here comes “I don’t want you to die mum!” stuff and etc.
So after the training about human body I can easily answer to “Why don’t we fall of from the earth if it s round?” I can speak and speak about it and change nappies but please no more questions about When I will die !!
In my country food is something to feed your belly with and that’s all! I would skip my breakfast in trade of longer sleep, eat fast lunch on the way or eat before the bed because I would be starving… I would eat at any time, whatever and however is available at the moment not to feel hunger
But one day I moved to a country where food is at the centre of the day… where culture of the food is vital.
It took me 6 months… what am I saying?! I am still struggling with accepting it and losing patience when I need to spend 5-7 hours on the table,,,
But it was in Portugal where I started my food journey and now when I have fussy eater toddler and being a fussy pregnant forces me to search, question and care about food.
So we said hello to flexitarianism and I think we will stick to in for some time or even for the rest of our life as family
p.s. yes, some people would say that flexitarianism is like vegetarianism just cheating but I don’t agree because all vegetarians that I know use medicine and vaccines that are based on trials with animal or even have part of animals. So let’s be fair and admit that even meat eater can be an environmentalist
To be honest I don’t care about gorillas in south america or dogs in asian counties but I concern about my son’s life in future and environment that will be around him. So if I care about him then automatically I care about chickens and dogs and whales and politics and all that mess that’s around us…
Oops… let’s go back to food my dear responsible consumers!
From now on our family will ban SUGAR and PALM OIL.
Why? make your own research! I did mine and after family meeting we agreed that from now on we will try to learn more about stevia and make more home-made biscuits!
It has been the longest Christmas that we ever had!… Last week we had family visits in Porto so our Christmas mood started there and all those decorations on the street, it looked like Christmas was coming, almost coming, almost, but still not here 😉
Anyway we would love to share some ginger cookies and christmas
tree lights with you all!
And also our typical Christmas postcard/video that you can see here!
Children and museums! Is it a good match or just lost time and tantrums?
I think it depends on some circumstances… like age, expectations and you time management ways.
For example our family contains ages from 2 to 35 so we try to find museums in which each of us can find something interesting. And be aware that it’s very possible that we will need an extra trip to see all the museum or even to make more 3 visits until all of us are happy that we have seen everything we wanted
Managing when is the right time to go to the museum – when there is less people, between naps, etc. Managing when is the right time to go out! You must count that some energy must be left for the travel because you won”t want to stay overnight in the museum! So it is important to leave the space when the youngest family member still has energy to reach home without being on the limit of a “meltdown”.
First thing what we do when we enter the space it s to find a map (sometimes we check it on internet before leaving home) and decide what exactly we want to see, what are our priorities and what can be left “to see later”. Then we try to stick to that and that makes our visit much more smooth and relax.
We started the week with a project “colorful clouds” that I found in one little project. It contains only stuff that you normally have at home (unless your dad has a stylish beard as ours and doesn’t use shaving foam). Results are unexpected and beautiful!!!
We tried “Penny Spinners”. It s super fast and fun small project and you can learn how to make it here.
Lately Markus is insisting to have my glasses so I thought to make ones for him from a eggs box???. And even though he enjoyed the process of making them ,,,but not to wear….
The project of the week was a garage for small cars! It super simple: Collect and glue toilet paper rolls! As much you need or as much you do have cars 😉 and create your own garage shape and form! Markus spend at least 25min in silence playing with it: taking out and putting back in his cars.
In the last days the weather has been very nice and warm. When Markus and I have “Father’s out” days we try to be more occupied so time passes faster and father comes faster home
In the beginning of the week Markus had his experience with his new childminder. It was the second time that he stayed without me or Rodrigo. The first time Markus was without the parents when my friend Gabija stayed with him for 3 hours some weeks ago… and, for our big surprise, he was more than perfect! We went out saying that we were going to work (we just don’t agree with hiding or disappearing from the place without explaining to him what is happening but also we do not need to make long good byes) and went to dress to get out, Markus even came to the corridor to say good-bye and kiss us.
But with childminder it was different… maybe because there were more kids around or because it was a new place. In the beginning everything looked quite not bad and I went out but when I came back to take him, the childminder told me that each time some parents would come to pick other kids Markus was crying and he also cried when I came :), of course I know he needs time to adapt, but some thing tells me that maybe I can find better place for him, not exactly better but more fitting his personality and our family’s view of education.
But still that “working mom” experience was perfect!!! Now I know how hard it is or maybe I’m so used to my own mom’s position that I forgot how I can improve my “momish” skills :), and on that day I did!!! I woke up at 7am, Markus and I did all normal morning duties as shopping, cleaning, breakfast, morning walk and nappies washing. Markus had his lunch sleep, or as I call it his “beauty sleep”, while I was working on computer and then after lunch I brought him to childminder, left him, caught the bus and went to my student’s house, gave the lesson, came back and had rest of afternoon duties that normally takes 5 hours of afternoon but I did in 1.30hour!!!! And I felt great! No stress at all, just tired but I can get used to it!
So, after that childminder experience I thought to give something nice to my son and go for museum, Childhood or Natural History, I couldn´t decide. And I didn´t have to because on FridayMarkus got a cold and after it was me :)…
Museum Vs Bed… BED!!! With blankets, warm cup of tea and best family in the world THE WALKABOUT FAMILY!!!